Karen Armstrong |
Here is a situation that comes up often: groups A and B have some kind of issue with one another. By ‘group’ I could mean family, community, culture, race, nation, religion, etc. By ‘issue’ I could mean anything from some persistent gripes to major threats, violence, and hostilities. These issues could be on one or both sides, and to varying degrees of balance. In both of these groups you have individuals who are very hateful, suspicious, distrusting, or otherwise disfavor members of the other group for things they may have done. The actions could have been done by the group ‘officially’ as a group, or some individuals could have taken the actions without it officially being a ‘group’ action.
Also, within each of these groups, you have
individuals who, when they were taught as a child about things like
forgiveness, tolerance, not stereotyping, and having compassion even for
enemies – actually believed it! And – worse – it wasn’t just a naive phase they
went through. All that stuff really stuck, and they actually try to be that way
in real-world situations – not just
in church, in songs, in word, or when teaching children. Those poor fools didn’t
get the memo that everyone else was just bullshitting when they say things like
that.
So, inevitably people in both groups will start to
overdo things. They’ll over-generalize, hold the other group to a standard they
themselves don’t meet, become consumed with hatred or fear, make up things or
get ideas about the other group that aren’t true, or just plain make some
logical mistakes. Or, perhaps they haven’t done much wrong themselves, but
haven’t really taken the steps they could to make things better. Inevitably,
those individuals who believe in all that compassion stuff will tend to point
these kinds of things out to their fellow group members. This doesn’t typically
go very well, as you might imagine.
Recently Karen Armstrong, former nun, religious
historian, and founder of the Charter forCompassion, wrote an article in The
Globe and Mail called, Islamophobia:We need to accept the ‘other’. In it, she called for less prejudice against
moderate Muslims living in the Western world and a return to greater tolerance
and egalitarianism. The responses and comments to Ms. Armstrong’s article were
very similar to responses I have experienced when writing on the belief page of
the Houston Chronicle, making similar calls for compassion, understanding, or
forgiveness regarding some ‘other’ group. The similarities were so striking
that I decided to write the following summary to point out some common fallacies
and misguided responses many of us may have when hearing or reading of someone
in our group doing the same. I hope this may be helpful.
10) Pointing out bad behaviors of those on the other side*
One of the most common responses to someone
pointing out ‘areas for improvement’ amongst their own side, is to retort with
a litany of all the bad things the other side has done (correct or not,
distorted or not). However, it is typical that an author is speaking to ‘their
own’. The other side is not typically the readership of an author’s article.
So, pointing out what the other side has done, as though it were a matter of
some kind of scoreboard, proceeds from a false assumption that we can control
the actions of others. When speaking to our own group, the aim is to get us
thinking about other groups as an individual should think about the outside
world – with the knowledge that we need to get our own house in order, morally
and ethically, because we all have control over what kind of family, community,
society we are going to be.
9) Pointing
out the other side’s lack of
similar tolerance, forgiveness, etc.
similar tolerance, forgiveness, etc.
As I have explained in previous articles, if we
decide that our formula for tolerance and forgiveness will be to require it of
others first, this will create a downward spiral of empathy and compassion in
our world if that standard is taken as universal. Some of us mistakenly think
that if our own wrongdoings are less in number or severity than the other side’s,
that we are absolved of the responsibility to be the best and most noble we can
be. Our aim should be to be better than our enemies, not let their actions
determine the kind of people we are going to be.
8) Nitpicking
factual details that don’t negate
the point, and proceeding as though they do
the point, and proceeding as though they do
This is a common logical fallacy in more general
cases than just our topic here. Many respond to calls for compassion with
nitpicky criticisms of small factoid mentioned in passing or as examples or
even analogies to the deeper point and in support of the call to action. While
it is helpful to point out inaccuracies, these corrections are sometimes biased
themselves, and often leave the impression that the point of the article has
been negated when, in fact, the corrections were immaterial. Sometimes, the
correction may be to support some other error listed here. For example, if the
correction of a point of fact is to add to the guilt of the other side, the
commenter may be doing so in order to commit error #9 or #10. Meaning, the
correction is still immaterial to the point.
7) Charging
hypocrisy for lack of similar calls to the other side
As mentioned, it is typical that the author of an
article takes note of their likely audience, given the paper, magazine, site,
or other form. As such, the author is specifically talking to their own
readership and, most often, their own group. It doesn’t make much sense to call
on group A to do x, when speaking to group B. So, why not go write another
article in some other venue that reaches group A? Often this isn’t very
effective, either because of language barriers, cultural barriers, or because
people tend to listen more to those from their own group. In fact, this is the
reason why calling for better ways from our own groups is so important –
because we can reach our own much more effectively. Often, writers of this kind
form ambassadorial-like relationships with compassion-callers in the other
groups, who write to their own on the other side. Even so, it’s a good idea for
authors to include caveats acknowledging the other side’s need to do the same,
of course. But, in fact, even though many authors do include these caveats, they are typically ignored by people
posting this kind of response. When reading an article by an author that is
obviously focused on compassion or any other virtue, it is most reasonable to
grant the author the benefit of the doubt and assume that they value this
virtue in all places by all people in similar conditions.
6) Charging
treason or cowardice for
lack of loyalty to the ‘home team’
lack of loyalty to the ‘home team’
The faulty nature of this response is so obvious
that it should hardly need to be stated. Even those who have posted responses
like this probably know what I’m about to write here, but this response is most
common in emotionally-charged topics where those who know better aren’t
necessarily thinking straight. Sadly, some may have deeper misconceptions and
think this response is valid even after giving it some thought. The key error
in this response is a misguided value system by which we pursue arguments,
policies, and actions primarily for the purposes of bolstering ‘our side’
rather than an honest pursuit of truth and fairness. This kind of loyalty-based
pseudo-ethics is the same system employed by mobsters, who need some kind of substitute
structure to maintain operations despite the lack of real ethics.
5) Charging
ignorance or naivety
when the point doesn’t demand it
when the point doesn’t demand it
Another common response to calls for compassion
toward others is to assume the author is ignorant of all the bad things the
other side has done, or that they are naive and presume that such compassion
will have some kind of unrealistic, concrete, immediate response from people of
ill will. This is a common criticism levied against those who say we should at
least try to negotiate with enemies. One source of this error is simply
misunderstanding what the author is saying, perhaps assuming the purpose behind
the call for compassion – as though compassion is merely a tactic, a means to
some external end. They imagine that, if the author knew of the bad things the
other side had done, or if the author understood the other side wasn’t likely
to reciprocate, that this would somehow undermine the point or change their
position on what we ought to do. They believe this because they have an
insufficient comprehension of what compassion and forgiveness are about, and
why they are important. The differences between the author and the commenter in
this case are not typically one of understanding the issue, but in their
respective value systems as applied to the issue.
4) Not
appreciating ‘proportion distortion’
caused by filtering of information
caused by filtering of information
Many of those who criticize these calls for
compassion sometimes have a distorted view of the overall weight of different
factors concerning the issue. This can often come from getting all of one’s
information from a narrow channel of sources, which may limit their exposure to
other points of view and even limit their awareness of facts that might enable
them to see some of the other side’s perspective or any kind of equity between
the two groups. Critics should take care to read about an issue from a number
of different perspectives and sources. I often say that, if we disagree with another
position, we should know enough about it to (in theory) pass as a proponent of
that position in a debate, making even others of that position think we were on
their side.
3) Assuming
all or most people on the other side
accept all of that side’s worst doctrines or positions
accept all of that side’s worst doctrines or positions
This kind of generalization is far more common
than should be, given even average intelligence, and underscores how much
emotion can distort our thinking. Often a few trouble-makers, or even a lot of
trouble-makers (yet still in the minority) can give a bad name to an entire
group. This isn’t to say that is always the case, but it often is. Even where
blatant generalization of this kind isn’t happening, critics can often assume
that the rest of the people in that group aren’t opposed to what the others on
their side are doing. They may ignore their efforts to stop it, hold them to
unrealistic expectations to do so, and so on. Ironically, when responding
critically to calls from their own to be better, critics may not realize that
the author is the very kind of person they are calling for more of in the other
group. Consistently, they should be proud of such individuals on their own
side.
2) Equating
acknowledgment of innocents among the other side with acceptance of other side’s
doctrines or positions
Sometimes calls for consideration of the innocents among the other side can be
taken as the author’s acceptance or agreement with the other side’s doctrines
or positions. This lack of nuance can lead to a lot of misguided or irrelevant
criticisms of such calls. Often, this is a short step away from error #6.
However, it is often the case that there are many innocent people in a group
with which we may have a problem. By being tolerant of them, and even reaching
out to them, we may find many more effective ways of working with that group
than we could without their understanding.
1) Assuming
tolerance and kindness toward innocents on the other side, or forgiveness of
anyone, includes condoning or allowing evil-doers unrestrained or uncontested
action
This is perhaps the most pervasive and common
response to any call for compassion or forgiveness of wrong-doers, on both an
individual and social scale. Those who make this criticism do so because they
misunderstand what forgiveness or tolerance entails, and why it is employed.
First, they imagine that tolerance means ‘tolerating the acts’ in the sense of
not working against them. They don’t realize that one can act vigorously
against others, even while maintaining compassion for them. This is the
distinction between an inner hatred that harms the hater, and a pure internal motivation. Or, they may think
that forgiveness means condoning the thing being forgiven, as though
forgiveness was some kind of reprieve. However, forgiveness means – precisely –
that a wrongdoing has been forgiven;
not that the wrongdoing has been redefined. Unless a wrongdoing happened and it
was really a wrongdoing, then no
forgiveness could have taken place. More importantly, forgiveness is a gift we
give to ourselves.
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*Note: for
purposes of referencing the very issue at hand, I use the terminology of “the
other side” as a semi-paraphrase of the position against which I am arguing. Yet,
in many ways, this terminology itself encourages an us/them mentality which may
do us a disservice.
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